Things every woman should do to gain the attention of her husband

Below are 7 things every woman should do in order to gain the attention of her husband ;

1. Show the gorgeous side of you: Maintain basic hygiene, comb your hair, smell nice and wear fitted clothes. 

2. Update your knowledge: Men like women who are well-read. They prefer women who know what is happening in the world. An intellectual wife, who can hold a discussion and have her view point on various topics, will keep her husband engaged in a healthy conversation.

3. Be independent: Do not depend on him, be it financially or otherwise. A strong independent woman is surely attractive.

4. Take interest in his interest: Be it sports, cars, bikes or movies, show interest in what your man likes. He will definitely appreciate the effort you are putting.

5. Express your love: Show your love, every single day. Let him know how much you value him. Tell him how much you love him.

6. Plan a date night: Book a table for two in a fancy restaurant or plan it at home. Make your children sleep early. Spend time together, just the two of you.

7. Show Him Respect: Respect isn’t about letting him make every decision and then going along blindly. Respect is about trusting him as your life partner, and treating him the way you want to be treated. 

15 mistakes married women should try to avoid.

1. TO PROLONG THE SILENCE WHEN THEY’RE OFFENDED, TO SHOW THEY’RE ANGRY

This results in you and your husband not talking to each other and makes you both even further apart, which seriously harms your communication. Even if he does something wrong, get angry, but talk about it and say goodbye quickly.

2. KILL YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IN THE NAME OF A GOOD WOMAN.

Don’t isolate yourself. Have grown-up friends who surround you, grow with you as a woman. This makes your life richer, enlarges your worldview, challenges you and makes you less time consuming for your husband. Again, you have to make sure that the ladies you love are of good character. You need comrades to be by your side, iron sharpens the iron.

3. OVERREACT OR EASILY GET ANGRY 

If your husband reveals information to you and overreacts, or if you become very suspicious or critical of him, this discourages him from sharing information with you in the future, and he begins to become secretive, not because he wants to, but because he prefers to avoid the toxic environment you bring with you if you react too quickly. Secrecy opens the door to many dangers in your marriage.

4. THE USE OF S*X AS A WEAPON 

Never try to punish your husband by denying him s*x. It will make him less willing to have s*x with you. Once your s*x life is ruined, your marriage will suffer. Never play games with s*x.

5. MOST TO THE VOICES OUTSIDE THAN YOUR HUSBAND

You and your husband know your marriage best, not your family or friends. If you listen to a few voices accompanying your marriage, you will get confused. The best thing you can do is talk to your husband. Don’t let your husband feel that what others say is worth more to you than what he says.

6. PERSONAL INFORMATION WITH EXTERNAL COMPONENTS 

There are things you can tell your friends and there are things that are best left between you and your husband. Don’t say bad things to your husband in the press. Don’t gossip about him. Cover him up.

7. THE ATTACKER’S SYMPTOMS, NO DOUBT. 

If your husband drinks too much, don’t attack the alcohol or the man; find out what makes him drink and solve the problem. Is he stressed? Is something wrong? If your husband is addicted to pornography, don’t attack your husband; find out why he is addicted to pornography, sexual disappointment or frustration. Does he have problems with low self-esteem?

8. DRESS WHEN GOING OUT, DON’T DRESS WELL AT HOME.

You don’t look good for outsiders and wear good clothes when you go to work or social life, but you look pathetic when you are at home or in the bedroom with your husband. Your goal is to visually stimulate your husband.

9. LETTING GO OF YOUR DREAMS BEFORE YOUR MARRIAGE

Don’t end your career and don’t throw away all your years of training and experience, all your talents and skills because you are a wife. Take a job, keep a job, earn money, go into business, learn, promote your goals. Grow up. There’s more to your life than just marriage. If you stagnate and stop growing, you will be less compatible with your husband, and he will soon have difficulty communicating with you because over the years he has grown more than you have.

10. COMPARING YOUR HUSBAND TO OTHER MEN

Don’t keep telling your husband, “Why can’t you be like this man or this man?” The quickest way to destroy your husband’s self-confidence, ego, dreams and driving is to praise other men and look down on them.

11. LEAVING THE MAN 

If you have a child/children, do not abandon your husband and stop satisfying his needs. Don’t push him aside. Show him you still need him. Do your parenting together, but don’t forget you two need to keep warm. Yes, you can create a balance between wife and mother, just as he can create a balance between husband and father. Don’t belittle him by saying it’s harder to be a mother than it is to be a father. 

12. HIDE IN THE CHURCH AND LEAVE YOUR HOUSE

Ma’am, it’s good to be active for God, get keshas, pray for your family. But remember, the church is not a building. The church is a living body. Your first responsibility is your home. Be at home. You are the answer to your prayers for your marriage and your family. God will bless your marriage, not because of the hours you spend in a church building, but because of the effort you make at home .

13. BE PASSIVE IN THE NAME OF THE ENTRANCE 

Being a submissive woman does not mean that you are beautiful and that you have no initiative, it does not mean that you have no voice or that you expect your husband in everything. Be patient. Have a vision for your marriage and share it with him. Ask your husband questions. Identify and respond to needs at home. Lead with your husband, don’t go alone. Take your husband to appointments. Get ideas and discuss them with your husband. Make sexual advances to your husband

14. BOTTLENECKS IN NUMBERS 

Stop keeping things to yourself that pretend you’re happy. Stop holding a grudge inside. Stop wearing a plastic smile. Stop thinking your husband knows what’s bothering you if you don’t say it. Stop calling your husband insensitive but you don’t tell him what’s bothering you. If you keep things inside you, they will grow and one day they will explode in a horrible way. If your husband has wronged you, confront him with love.

15. THREATEN TO DIVORCE HIM TO SCARE YOUR HUSBAND.

Don’t just use the word “divorce.” Don’t use threats. Don’t tolerate thoughts of ending your marriage to avoid the risk of appearing irrational and indecisive. Every marriage has its difficulties, but that doesn’t mean you are playing with the idea of leaving it. If you do, a divorce will in fact be an irreversible reality

Do you know you can Brighten your Complexion naturally.

Here, are the ways of brighten your complexion and I argue you to stop bleaching from today.

Lemon Juice

Lemons are known as natural bleaching agents and the juice of lemons are applied on the skin to brighten complexion and make you light.

Lemon juice contains lots of vitamin C, and citric acids; these nutrients brighten your complexion and improve the quality of your skin. They make your skin glow and boosts its health. It treats skin problems and infections and also fades scars.

Apply lemon juice all over your body and have your bath when it dries off. You can do this once daily and you will notice an improvement in your skin tone.

You can also make your own body scrub to give you a brighter skin; mix lemon juice, baking soda, turmeric and rose water together. Mix them properly and apply them all over your body before you have your bath.

Let it sit for ten minutes before you wash it off, do this once daily and you will notice an improvement in your complexion.

Pure Honey

It hydrates the skin, it fights infections and also lightens complexion and make your skin appear bright. Apply raw and pure honey all over your skin and let it sit for at least 15 minutes before you wash it away.

It improves the appearance and quality of your skin and it also gives your skin a healthy glow.

Pure Olive Oil

Extra-virgin olive oil gives the skin a clean and bright appearance. It gives you a natural glow and makes your skin look attractive. It is great for the skin and it lightens your complexion, this is because it is rich in antioxidants and vitamin E.

When you have your bath, dry your body and apply extra-virgin olive oil all over your skin as your body cream, use cold-pressed olive oil as that is the purest form of olive oil available. Let it be your skin, do not wash it off till at night or the next time you want to have your bath.

Baking Soda

This common kitchen ingredient brightens the complexion, it is a very simple but effective remedy. It even shrinks large pores on your skin, thus fighting aging and making you look younger.

It also clears skin pigmentations and patches or discolorations; it cleans the skin by removing dead skin cells from the surface of the skin, thereby brightening the complexion.

Mix water with baking soda, you can also use rose water, orange juice or lemon juice; apply this paste all over your body. Scrub gently as the baking soda needs just minimal help from you to brighten your complexion.

After scrubbing gently, leave it on your skin for few minutes before having your bath. Do this three times weekly for a bright and healthy looking skin.

Cucumbers

For ages, cucumbers have been used to soothe the skin and treat lots of skin problems. They are one of the most common natural skin care treatments and they give a bright looking complexion.

Blend cucumbers and extract the juice. Apply this juice all over your body and leave it for at least 15 minutes before washing it off. This tones the skin, improves complexion and treats skin problems like spots, scars, and puffiness.

Witch Hazel

This inexpensive and effective herb helps you tone your skin and lighten your complexion. It removes impurities from your skin, and this, in turn, will brighten it and treat infections.

Buy pure witch hazel and mix it aloe vera gel, apply this all over your body and then you wash it away after some minutes. This is an effective and inexpensive way to lighten your complexion. It causes no harm to your skin and health.

Oatmeal

Oatmeal eliminates toxins from the skin and this gives you a bright complexion because accumulated toxin on the skin dulls your complexion and can even make the skin look unhealthy and sick.

Using oatmeal on your skin is a powerful way to detoxify your skin and brighten your complexion. Mix oatmeal with hot water, add egg white, raw honey, and natural yogurt. Mix all till it forms a thick paste with a uniform consistency.

Apply this all over your body and leave it on for 15 minutes. Have your bath with warm water and do this once daily to have a bright complexion and a clean skin free of toxins and dead skin cells.

Gram Flour

This is one of the best natural ingredients if you want to whiten your skin complexion. It also keeps your skin very healthy because it contains many natural ingredients. It hydrates the skin and eliminates excess oil from the skin which can lead to acne and other skin problems that can cause spots and scars.

Mix gram flour and ordinary water or rose water; this should form a thick paste. Apply it all over your body and leave it on till it dries off and then you have your bath. This should be done daily

Things you need to know about pregnancy

How to know if you’ll ever get pregnant

Pregnancy is a very tricky situation, women dream to have children of their own, some women are scared pregnancy will spoil their shape,some women are scared or c- section, some women are scared they won’t even get pregnant, some women strive to get a particularly gender.. There are just soo many things involved, including the stress when it finally happens.

Medically and scientifically, the amount of eggs your mother had are the same amount you’ll have, and the number of eggs decades as you get older and about age fifty and sixty, you’ll scarcely have any eggs remaining, this is when menopause kicks in.

Naturally, if you don’t ovulate you can’t get pregnant.

What is ovulation

Out of all the eggs we give off every month , there is only one egg that gets mature and its only mature eggs that are capable of producing children when fertilized.

Imagine if out of ten to twenty eggs we give everything month, only one can produce a child.

Ovulation is like the secretion of that mature egg after it has waited so long to get fertilized.

Ovulation occurs fourteen days from the first day of your period.

But medically, ovulation does not occur in all women , you can try all several other pregnancy options like IVF.

If you ovulate normally, your fertile window (period when you can have sex to increase your chances of having children) is three to five days before ovulation and three to five days after ovulation or preferably on the ovulation ….day or the day after ovulation

I hope this helped

Benefits of anti-aging cream to the body.

Do you know what makes your anti-aging cream work? With so many products on the market, it can be difficult to suss out which products will slow the effects of time on your skin and which are smoke and mirrors, says Joshua Zeichner,MD, the director of cosmetic and clinical research in the dermatology department at Mount Sinai Hospital in New York City. But some ingredients, such as retinol and sunscreen, do have proven benefits, he explains. Top dermatologists say the following anti-agers are the most potent wrinkle-fighters on the market.

1

B Vitamins for Healthy Skin, Hair, and Nails

These essential vitamins appear in multiple forms and complexes in Skin-care products. Yet the function of all vitamin B derivatives is the same: to convert food into energy to fuel vital body processes — including those responsible for healthy, firm skin. “Vitamin B and all its derivatives are essential for healthy skin, hair, and nails,” says Joel schlessinger MD, a dermatologist in Omaha, Nebraska.

B vitamins can be especially potent in moisturizers, Dr. Schlessinger says. When these vitamins are among the ingredients in your skin care, damaged cells will heal and regenerate more quickly. And if you’re looking to supplement your anti-aging cream, one of the best natural sources of vitamin B is bananas.

2

Coenzyme Q10 to Protect Collagen

Coenzyme Q10 (vitamin Q) is a strong antioxidant that can help build the foundation needed for younger-looking skin. “Coenzyme Q10 helps protect the elastic tissue and collagen that shape your skin,” explains Jessica Wu, MD, an assistant clinical professor of dermatology at the University of Southern California in Los Angeles. As we get older, our natural coenzyme Q10 levels diminish, slowing the skin’s ability to rejuvenate and protect itself from damage. To build levels of the coenzyme, many find that taking a dietary supplement in addition to using topical creams yields optimal results. There’s a bonus to coenzyme Q10 supplements, too — some researchers believe they aid in preventing heart disease.

3

Copper to Prevent Sagging and Fill Wrinkles

You’re probably imagining pennies, but the copper we’re talking about is found in trace amounts in skin cells, where it binds proteins together. Essential for collagen formation, the anti-aging ingredient helps support the skin to prevent sagging and to fill in wrinkles. Clinical studies have shown that copper contributes to the clearing and renewal of fractured collagen, making it an excellent ingredient for those who wish to improve the look of sun-damaged skin and scars. “Copper is nonirritating,” explains Dr. Wu, “so it’s a good alternative for those with sensitive skin who may not be able to tolerate retinoids.”

4

Green Tea to Revitalize Your Skin

You may sip a cup of warm green tea to relax, but the ancient plant from which the tea is brewed is replete with nutrients that recharge your skin. While the healing medicinal properties of the leaf redound to phytochemicals known as polyphenols, it’s the stimulant qualities that can have an energizing effect on aging skin. “Green tea has a wonderful effect on dark circles — which is especially striking when combined with caffeine in eye cream,” says Schlessinger. Green tea is also an antioxidant, meaning that it aids in preventing and repairing the damage done by oxidation, which breaks down skin cells.

5

Peptides to Stimulate Collagen Production

Because of the promising results of clinical research, such as a study published in December 2018 in the international journal of peptide Research and Therapeutics, peptides are becoming increasingly popular anti-aging skin-care ingredients. Peptides are short chains of amino acids, the building blocks of proteins. Most peptide creams are designed to stimulate collagen to improve the appearance of wrinkles, explains Dr. Zeichner. But not all peptide creams are created equal, so you should stick to products that have gone through clinical testing, he notes. 

6

Retinoids and Retinols to Speed Up Cell Turnover

Over-the-counter retinols and prescription retinoids like Retin-A are derivatives of vitamin A. “Retinoids and retinols speed up and stimulate cell turnover and collagen production for smoother and younger-looking skin,” says Wu. No other ingredient, she adds, has been more tested and proven by the medical community as an aging antidote than retinoids. But don’t expect results overnight — it takes several weeks or even months for retinol to exert its wrinkle-fighting effect, so it must be used over long periods of time, Zeichner says. Plus, retinoids and retinols can be drying, and can make you more sensitive to the sun. Use them in moderation, and counter any retinoid- or retinol-containing product with daily sunscreen use.

7

Vitamin E to Reverse Damage and Rejuvenate Skin

Vitamin E is a powerhouse when it comes to reversing the type of skin damage that leads to dryness, collagen destruction, and fine lines and wrinkles. The vitamin neutralizes cell-damaging free radicals, which are triggered by environmental factors like sun exposure. “Vitamin E is a great antioxidant to look for in rejuvenating skin creams, and it can assist with wound healing as well, by strengthening the skin barrier,” says Schlessinger. This is why pure vitamin E oil remains a popular (and inexpensive) salve for cracked cuticles and scars from cuts, burns, and surgery.

8

Sunscreen to Prevent Skin Cancer (and Improve Your Appearance)

Not only does sunscreen help prevent skin cancer, it’s also been shown to improve the cosmetic appearance of the face, even if used by itself, Zeichner says. In a study published in December 2016 in the journal Dermatologic Surgery, sunscreen alone applied to the face for one year resulted in improvements of cosmetic measures like skin tone, texture, and wrinkles.

9

Vitamin C to Neutralize Damage and Lighten Dark Spots

Vitamin C is an antioxidant that neutralizes damage from free radicals and helps complement the effect of your sunscreen, explains Zeichner. “In the morning, I have my patients layer vitamin C underneath their sunscreen,” he says. Vitamin C also interferes with abnormal pigment production, helping to lighten dark spots, he adds.

10

Hydroxy Acids to Exfoliate Dead Cells and Fight Wrinkles

Hydroxy acids like glycolic acid help exfoliate dead cells from the surface of the skin. “They’ve also been shown to stimulate collagen and improve the appearance of lines and wrinkles,” explains Zeichner. Hydroxy acids come in varying strengths, so it’s important to check with a board-certified dermatologist to find out which one is right for you.

“These tips are not from a medical expert. Make more findings and/or exercise caution if you decide to try them.”

Perfect way of saying Goodbye.

Most times, certain things we say in english language are not said properly, most time we use some words in the time, or place that is not needed. I have written lots of corrections to mistakes we make in English language, in some of my previous posts. 

  And i will continue to write on it to educate most of us, on wrong english we speak and the correct ones, so please do well to share and follow.

 “Goodbye” it is improper to make use of the word after any conversation at night.

 There was a friend of mine i told bye, after a little chat we had online Then she got upset, i decided to go online and make some research i got to know that it is not proper

Instead say the word “Goodnigt, or have a splendid night rest”

but please do not use the word bye. if the person happens to visit you at night, you can say this instead.  

1. Safe trip  

2. Stay safe

3. help me say hi to your family 

4. have a beautiful dream

Incorrect English

1. I saw him in the bus

Correct English

I saw him on the bus

Incorrect English

2. I will tell her by myself

Correct English

I will tell her Myself

Incorrect English

3. At the end

Correct English

In the end

Incorrect English

4. Victory God’splan lives at London 

Correct English

Victory God’splan lives in London

Incorrect English

5. Vicky is my Senior sister

Correct English 

Vicky is my elder sister.

I hope it was quite Educative please do not forget to share and follow.

Better ways of saying How are you and How was your night.

English Language could be hard sometimes, especially when it gets to mastering and studying some of our day to day words we say that seems correct but is inappropriate.So am going to share some tips on words u can use to replace the usual “” How are you””and How was your Night”.

Aren’t you tired of the usual,

How are you?

I’m fine, thank you.

“How are you?” These are the three most useless words in the world of communication. The person asking doesn’t really want to know, and the person responding doesn’t tell the truth.

We have been taught by our teachers that this is the appropriate way to greet. Even when you don’t feel like it, you should still mutter “I’m fine, thank you”.

But today, I’m telling you to stop this routine, it’s overwhelming.

For instance, imagine you have a problem which you wish to share with someone, but none seems to be asking the right question. Only “how are you”, you keep hearing from hundreds of people you came in contact with, how then will you relate your problem.

There are better and smart ways to elicit answers from people about their well being without the usual “how are you?”.

Try these

How have you been?

What’s sizzling?

How was your day?

How are you doing?

What new ideas are you giving your energy?

What’s good in the hood?

What’s going on?

How do you do?

What’s the excitement about?

You all right?

These are the right questions that will definitely elicit response from the addressee rather than “I’m fine, thank you”.

Furthermore, those that fancy asking, “how was your night?” Please stop it. Try to alternate it with the following words:

Hope your night was great?

Hope you had a pleasant night rest?

Hope your night was blissful?….

Stop asking “how was your night”, it’s inappropriate

Purposes for marriage

There are Six Purposes for Marriage?

God designed marriage to fulfill six important and vital functions. When we understand them, we will be better able to honor marriage.

1. Companionship

True companionship grows out of a oneness of spirit. This occurs in marriage when both the husband and wife can say, “My spouse is my best friend.” “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3).

2. Enjoyment

The principle behind enjoyment is self-control. “Marriage is honorable [precious] in all, and the bed [should be kept] undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4).

3. Completeness

God designed Eve to complete that which was lacking in Adam’s life. “And Adam said, … She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:23).

4. Fruitfulness

God’s first command in Scripture is this: “… Be fruitful [bear fruit], and multiply [increase], and replenish [fill] the earth …” (Genesis 1:28).

The very nature and character of God is to multiply life, whereas the nature and character of Satan is to multiply death.

5. Protection

A husband is to protect his wife by laying down his life for her. (See Ephesians 5:25.) A wife is to protect the interests of her home. (See Titus 2:4–5.) Parents are to protect their children to raise up a Godly seed.

6. Typify Christ and the Church

Marriage is to be a human object lesson of the divine relationship between Christ and believers. (See Ephesians 5:31–33.)

Things that kills marriage

marriage is a formal union and social and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. … Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the marriage.

Marriage is meant to be respected not to be abused.

Below are the things that kills marriages of today.

·     Laziness kills marriage 

·     Suspicion kills marriage 

·     Lack of trust kills marriage 

·     Lack of mutual respect kills marriage 

·     Unforgiveness kills marriage (Forgiveness is not optional but mandatory)

·     Arguments kills marriage 

·     Keeping secrets from your spouse kills marriage 

·     Every form of infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc)

·     Poor communication kills marriage 

. Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect.

·     Relating more with your parents than your spouse kills marriage 

·     Lack of, inadequate or unenjoyable sex kills marriage. 

·     Nagging kills marriage 

·     Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage 

·     Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage 

·     Being too independent minded kills marriage

·     Love for party, money and spending/partying kills marriage 

·     Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents or siblings kills marriage

·     Not being steadfast/fervent in the spirit kills not only marriage but your life

·     Spurning correction and reprimand kills marriage. 

·     Always wearing a sad face and being moody kills marriage.  

·     FEMINISM ADVOCACY kills marriage. 

·     Uncontrolled or hot temperament kills marriage. 

·     Not understanding your role and position in marriage as instituted by God kills marriage. 

·     Not being sensitive to the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of your spouse kills marriage

·     When anything threatens the position/security of a wife, her reaction(s) will be detrimental to her marriage.

·     Lack of the knowledge of the word of God kills marriage.

.Please, save a marriage today by sharing this.

May God bring healing to every troubled home and family. Ameen.

Things you should never rushed into.

1 – Relationships – Dating is a fun and often laid-back experience. There’s something exciting about getting to know somebody, with no pressure to ever see them again if you don’t desire. Once you step into the relationship game, everything changes. It’s far more demanding emotionally, financially & time-wise. No need to rush it. Take it slow and make sure you two are a correct fit before committing long-term.

2 – Big decisions – A lot of people like to live by the ‘hell yes or no’ aphorism. While there’s certainly value to saying no when something doesn’t excite you, sometimes we need to take more time when the consequences of a decision are immense. By giving it time, we can let our emotions fade and ultimately select the option that is most logical.

3 – Writing – As I sit here composing this answer, there’s a sense of urgency. As if I need to complete this write-up quickly. That’s merely not true. I could take an hour, being very precise with my words and that would be perfectly okay. Sometimes a deadline can create pressure which motivates us to rush and ultimately produce a product that is less than par. I prefer to be diligent and take my time with this craft.

4 – Sex – Unless you’ve got a meeting in 30 minutes and need to bust a…move, enjoy it. No need to rush one of the most enjoyable experiences us humans have.

5 – Eating – When we eat slower, we are more likely to realize we are full before finishing everything before our eyes. This can help individuals who are hoping to lose weight. It’s also beneficial to take the time to taste the food you are consuming. Think about where it came from & how it was prepared. Mindful eating can help us eat healthier—both in terms of food quality and portion size.

6 – Investing – About a year ago my buddy was telling me all about Bitcoin. Now, I had heard plenty about Bitcoin but wasn’t keeping up with the cryptocurrency market like he was. He told me about the app called Coinbase and naturally, I downloaded it. It was so simple to link up my bank account. Next thing you know, I was invested. A proud owner of .000001 Bitcoin. Okay, maybe a little more than that…but trust me, it’s been a bad deal. I should’ve taken my time and talked to more people before throwing down.

7 – Gifts – I’ve spent a great deal of time lately looking for Christmas gifts. In general, my family’s philosophy is ‘less is more’ when it comes to the holidays. We’ve always exchanged, but sort of in a minimalistic way. For some reason, I’ve felt compelled to spend more money than I should this year. Perhaps it’s because of all the support my parents have given me throughout the years. Maybe I’m just really feeling the love in 2018. Whatever it may be, it’s caused me to be very invested in the gift-giving process. And in taking my time finding the right gift(s) for each person, I’ve come across some incredible deals and items. Don’t buy the first option that pops up. Give it time.