The reality of how things operate in Nigeria is very disturbing..
A westerner who knows he/she likes bisexuals will rarely be with strictly straight people..
The one who loves sex so much will look for a capable partner even if it means marrying a porn star and they do that all the damn time!

Now come to Nigeria, a man will know he loves sex so much, won’t be able to sustain the no sex before marriage rule, he’ll pass natasha,Trisha, et al the nymphomaniac and go to profess love to sister Nkechi that wants to be celibate till marriage.. like WTF is wrong with you?

Same men will see Chelsea, Diamond et al who love the flashy luxury high end life, fall ‘in love’ with them when they know they’d rather have aunty Chinenye with her deeper life dressing and wife materialism, then they’d start hounding the flashy girl to drop her flashy lifestyle and be like aunty Chinenye that is after passing aunty Chinenye on the road to go and meet Chelsea oo..

Women likewise will leave the men that are their dream men and go to marry the supposedly rich men who they can’t stand their very sight then turn around to cheat with the fine gigolo…

The confusion you set in motion in your life is the reason for the complications you face!
Pick a damn struggle! Nothing is sexier than knowing what you want and going for it!
Miss me with the bullshit of when the desirable is not available…
They’re available you just want 10/10 when you yourself isn’t even 3/10..

Good day dears❤❤

I remember an incident that happened when I was a kid of 10, 11years..
My father’s cousin was to get married and he had two women he wanted to choose from so they had to consult a native doctor😁🤗

Now story according to my mum was that, when they got to the native doctor and tabled their matter, he told them that one of the ladies would be good in caring for her mother in law but every other aspect of her life was trouble, then the other one was a very good woman all round BUT was not going to care for mama😋

They went with the mama in question so guess who they chose? The first! True to the native doctor’s words, the lady was/is venom, craze, fighter, area scatter! As long as you’re not mama she no send you, even the husband, so automatically they married an extension for mama😁🤗

You know why I’m recounting this?? In igbo land, after asking if you’re OSU or UME when they go for enquiry on the woman they want their son to marry, the next thing they’d be looking out for is how much you can respect, care for, tolerate and submit to your mother-in-law! That’s why the ladies will go to visit mama especially before marriage, that’s also the reason you hear stories about difficult mothers-in-law to be..

The typical igbo woman, especially one who suffered neglect and abuse from the husband already knows the son has unconsciously imbibed those qualities, so she’s not counting on him to take care of her in her old age but his WIFE!
This is part of the reason they subject the ladies to all kinds of stupid tests so they’re sure when the time comes they won’t meet a challenge or stiff resistance..

Their daughters nko you may ask?? Just like they have prepared ahead to have someone else’s daughter care for them, they already believe once their daughters are married, they’re LOST.. They’d face their own mothers-in-law and also care for them at their requests or their sons’ requests!

This cycle has been sustained for a long time because men majorly provided so they had the say in their marriages, this is why a woman will have to after marriage ‘beg’ to go visit her people! Some men even go the extreme of banning them from sleeping over or give a limited number of days that they can stay over..

Now that women are earning too, the barrier currently is the shame of being divorced for going against your husband and deciding that you’d care for your own mother first before his, or even outrightly rejecting his mother coming to live with you or you caring for her..
Yes in 2020, you’ll still hear men say ‘a woman I married with MY MONEY’
My own wife refused to…
A woman I paid her bride price… et al

It’s because of the current story about the man that brought his mother to live with him and the angry wife who already has her hands full with 4kids refused to be burdened with his mother..
Will you say that man is useless? Yes! He’s useless that even he himself knows he and his thinking are very useless and stupid but guess what?? His STUPIDITY is proudly sponsored by THE SOCIETY!

He will have sympathizers and empathizers from the SOCIETY..

1. There’s no wise wife who wins all arguments with her husband. The home isn’t a Court of Law.

2. The woman who uses sex as a home weapon-placing embargo, going to bed in shorts and trousers of jeans lacks wisdom.

3. The wife who uses the modern “women’s rights” trends and laws to insult or ridicule her husband is simply making a fool of herself.

4. A woman who, through bickering, nagging and quarreling, makes her home devoid of peace needs help. A man should be eager to run away from office to be home, for that should be the safest and most cozy place for him on earth.

5. Modern-day marriage equality is not about competition. It just means partnership. Taking advantage of such equality to turn around and become the home’s de facto head and oppress the man is tantamount to fire play. Should you destroy your home, you’ll soon become the boss of an empty home.

6. A wise woman makes the man feel so good he assumes he’s the head. The woman gently wields her power once he gets that feeling and the head actually turns to wherever the neck will without a protest.

7. A wife that does not pull herself away from friends’ influence and advice or even from the control of her mother and father will have herself to blame.

8. When a man is looking for a wife, he bypasses women of different shapes and sizes to choose a wife. But soon after childbirth, many women hide under the excuse of childbirth to let go of themselves. Many stop bothering about their looks, shape, dressing, etc. Within 5 years of marriage, people start wondering if the wife is the man’s aunt, even though she is 7 years younger. Her defense is that he should love her the way she is, if he truly loves her. But he saw people like the present YOU when looking for a wife, and ignored them and settled for the former YOU. You go to bed today smelling of pap and onions, You go to bed wearing the clothes of the grandmothers, Why do you play with your marriage? Love is not about appearances-we know. But looks to enhance marriage and love.

There is a difference between someone who disfigures themselves and the person who gets disfigured by an accident. Don’t be complacent please. As hard as it may be, when he first saw you and started the chase he worked on looking like you were.

9. You are a joker! a serious comedian, if you are tired, sleepy, sore, down with headache or fever every night, “not in the mood!”

10. If your kids suddenly become more important to you than your husband, prayers are needed.

11. If you assume that as a woman you only have to be pampered and fussed about while the man is a stone that has no emotions, you have to be pitied.

12. A woman who has a wife’s mind doesn’t get her husband excited. Wives are generally self-satisfied and presumptuous. A wife needs to strive to have a girlfriend’s mind. A girlfriend is always nicer, sweeter, more loving and always thinking about ways to wow her sweetheart; a girlfriend doesn’t try to win all the arguments, doesn’t call the man a “useless man,” isn’t careless about her looks or dressing, always smiles and laughs with the man, sends the man sweet messages and calls, etc. Are you a girlfriend of your husband, in word and deed?

13. You have missed it when you rely solely on your beauty, cooking, character, connections and bedroom performance to keep your man and home intact without putting God in the picture. It can not be Good without God. 

Put God first in your home.

16 Romantic names you can call your lovers.

1.Heart’s desire.

This is an expression of how special your partner is to you.

2.Love.

This is an encapsulation of everything you feel for your lover.

3.Honey plum

This is very effective and trendy.

4.Suga.

This is likening how your partner makes you feel to something tangible and sweet

5.Baby

This is an expression of care for your lover

6.Pretty/Handsome.

This makes your lover feel amazing.

7.Darling.

This is old but still very effective.

8.Sweetheart.

This is an adorable name to call your lover.

9.Gem.

This makes your lover feel special.

10. Sweetie.

This is another word for sweetheart

11.prince/princess.

This is likening your partner to a titled person.

12.Bae/Boo.

This is a trendy name to call your lover.

13.Bambie.

This is sweet for girls (ask your girlfriend).

14.Cutie.

Amazing to call your lover.

15.dearie.

Cool and trendy

16.pumpkin.

Go research about this one.

Try out these names on your lover and you’ll experience your relationship spicing up and having more fun.

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Six years ago a guy looked at me face to face, and boldly told me; “I don’t like you!”

I immediately fired a response, I asked him that day; “Thank you for the honest feedback, but those that you like, how has it made their life better? How does your liking people pay their bills or take a bank loan? My brother keep your like, I need God’s like And that’s what guarantees my future.

ONE day I joined a CEO friend of mine in an interview Panel to recruit some new staff, it was a long session.
As we returned from a coffee break to continue the hectic interview session, here was this same guy walked in with his grey jacket and CV coming for the interview.

Our eyes kissed by fluke, we immediately recognised each other; “the world is indeed spherical”, I soliloquized.

He felt very uncomfortable through out the interview, one could clearly see the volcanic eruption ongoing in his whole nervous system, he even mistook his date of birth for his last date of employment.

It wasn’t yet my turn to ask him questions so I allowed everyone to take their turns with him and deliberately opted to interview him last.

When it got to my turn, the first thing I said was, “I LIKE YOU so much, you look to me like a brilliant and intelligent person, but it seems you are not doing well now because something bothers you, true?”

“That’s very correct Sir!” He responded.

“Ok look at me straight in the eye, I was never offended that day, it is very normal that sometimes as humans you just don’t like certain people, but I wasn’t bothered either, because whether you liked me or not, it was inconsequential to my life and my success path – as you can see, fate has brought you to my lair”

I stood up and beckoned him to come and embrace me, everyone on the panel at this point were at sea – wondering if we had expeditiously recast an interview session to a Hollywood movie scene.

He hugged me so long and deeply that I felt it. Then I told him, “now get your confidence back bro and answer the questions like a Pro Shark that you are, we all burst into laughter, everyone suddenly liked him and the room became livelier – the interview became more like a discussion, well to cut the long story short, he got the job!

Lessons:

1. Be careful how you treat people when they appear to be in their vulnerable state, your next level may be hanging in their balance; somewhere in the future.
2. If you dislike someone, it is not their fault, it is YOUR FAULT, work on yourself to find good in people and reinvent your Mind to see everyone as likeable.
3. Don’t spew hatred vocally just because it came into your heart, you may say it to someone who will keep it forever and use it against you when you find yourself in your own low moments and need them.
4. Learn to forgive, overlook people’s dislike and hatred for you, dont punish people just because you have the position and privilege to do so, bless them rather – that’s how you court God’s blessings, favour and protection.
5. Share this post, someone needs it to heal from their past burdens of unforgiveness they have been carrying which has been hindering their promotions and inhibiting God’s blessings flowing their way!

_Addendum: I know that this article will bless you beyond limits._This can even be the Manna for today.

“Bad boys are no good, but good boys are no fun.” This simple summary is the root of what drives many good girls to bad boys. The lust for that fun and excitement could sometimes seem so interesting regardless of the warnings and red flags. With the claim of good guys being no fun to date, they get lured into toxic relationships. They say opposites attract. But this is a cliché of women: they are irresistibly drawn to rebellious, rule-breaking ‘bad boys’. Ladies know a bad boy when they see one because there are several warning signs.

Who are ‘Bad Boys’?

“These men ooze testosterone, which leads to boldness and is associated with exaggerated sexuality,” says Michael R. Cunningham, Ph.D., professor and psychologist at the University of Louisville. “They may be rebellious or emotionally unavailable,” says Madeleine A. Fugère, author, Social Psychology of Attraction and Romantic Relationships. “Bad guys display qualities of the so-called psychological dark triad,” explains Marisa T. Cohen, Ph.D., CPLC, relationship researcher and coach

In simple terms, they are hyper-masculines who are probably tall, dark but horrible. Bad boys are those who are narcissistic with a sense of entitlement. They are callous and prone to exploiting others, and could also display antisocial and impulsive behaviour. Women who date them rarely end up married to them. This attraction isn’t because of some biological imperative, it’s just what it is.

The bottom line is they are great for a fling, but if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, then look out for the nice guy. Guys pride themselves in being ‘bad’, it’s like a tag of honour among their peers. But like a drug, once women get a taste it becomes hard to stop. This is one reason they leave a trail of broken hearts.

Why Good Girls Like Bad Boys We have seen it in romantic movies where women go on a quest to win those seemingly irresistible and unattainable men. Chances are you’ve lived out or are living out those movies. If you have never been in a relationship with a bad boy then maybe you know someone who has. Basically, this is a common pairing in relationship-ville. But why does this happen?

Since there’s no biological reason, below are psychological reasons why good girls are attracted to bad guys:

1. “Bad boys” free them from the pressure of being “good girls.” “Girls possess a range of traits, like rebelliousness. These traits are typically repressed during childhood, as females are socialised to be compliant and agreeable. If a girl’s inner life is unexpressed, she may be drawn to a bad boy as a way of vicariously expressing her own inner rebel,” explains Robyn McKay, Ph.D., psychologist and co-author of Smart Girls in the 21st Century.

2. Remember, opposites attract. “We’re attracted to qualities in others that we ourselves wish we had. A ‘good girl’ may admire the bad boy’s sense of freedom. Although this quality makes him an unsuitable partner for the long-term, it can make him so attractive. It’s seemingly worth the potential pain associated,” says sociologist and clinical sexologist Sarah Melancon, Ph.D.

3. They believe they are exciting, different, and “forbidden.” “Bad boys can be a welcome change from the usual types of partners,” says Dr. Fugère. “When we want something, we can’t or shouldn’t have, our desire for it grows exponentially.”

4. They desire a protector. “They desire having someone in their life who is tough enough to face the world and punch back when necessary,” says psychologist Forrest Talley, Ph.D.

5. Bad boys are interesting monogamy projects. “If you can convince one to commit, it can feel like quite an accomplishment,” explains psychiatrist Dr. Margaret Seide, M.D. “You think that if you can land one, you must be pretty, funny, and smart enough to have won this prize. Unfortunately, due to societal pressures, women are often on an eternal quest for validation and that elusive feeling of being enough. The pursuit of bad boys is just another example of this.” Unfortunately, Dr Michael R. Cunningham explains that the testosterone that makes bad boys adventurous, and rebellious will make them less willing to follow the rules of dating relationships and matrimony. He adds that instead, “they’re into conquests and looking for fresh kills.” So, nice girls need to be more protective of their hearts than not. A GIRL dreams of a BAD BOY who is only gentle with her. A BOY dreams of a GOOD GIRL who is only naughty for him. Fortunately, while bad boys may start the race by capturing the attention, nice guys always end it by winning the heart. Bad guys come with a package of mystery and adventure that seems more thrilling, fun and attractive. However, the price that has to be paid is incredibly worthless. Or is a broken heart worth being with a ‘bad boy’? Share your thought on this.

Marriage is originated by God for mindkind, he noticed that it is not good for a man to be alone, for that reason he made a woman out of man and made her a companion for the man..there is also a saying that, “a man that finds a wife finds a good thing”

Meaning wife’s are blessings to men, it’s the desire of every woman to be the best wife for their Husband, With this 15 Ways to love your husband, I believe you will become a better wife for your husband as you put them into practice..read to the end and share it to your friends and love one.

1. Praise him, don’t praise other men

2.Cover his shame, don’t cover up your mistakes

3.Hide in his arms, don’t hide your vagina from him

4. Buy him an expensive cologne, don’t buy into the cheap rumors being spread about him

5. Lengthen the size of his penis as you arouse it erect from it released size, don’t lengthen his sorrows

6. Strengthen his character, don’t strengthen his enemies by attacking him

7. Shout out his goodness for the world to hear, don’t shout at him

8. Send him sweet massages, don’t send gossip about him to your friends

9. Give birth to his baby, don’t order him around like a baby

10. Feed him with good food, don’t feed him lies

11. Address his fears, don’t undress for another man

12. Build him up, don’t build wall between you and him

13. Ask him how his day has been, don’t ask for things you know he can’t currently give

14. Set a loving mood at home, don’t become draining and moody

15. Challenge him to grow, don’t challenge his position as the head of the home.

16. Always pray for him, behind every successful man there’s a woman.

17. Don’t be a nagging wife rather learn how to settle issues with your husband amicably.

18. Do not expose his weaknesses outside. Always be his strength.

A good wife will always love and cherish her husband, building a healthy family is all that matters, with the ways listed above we hope I will boost you and your marriage.

Although it’s now a couple of years since I first heard it, I still remember this monologue by Peyton Sawyer—a fictional character in the American drama series, One Tree Hill:

“At this moment, there are 6,470,818,671 people in the world . . . Six billion people in the world. Six billion souls. And sometimes, all you need is one.”

………………………

No doubt, the search for that one has been the thrill for some and the agony of others. We’ve heard tales of love, with happy endings; likewise, we’re no strangers to stories that could best be described as tragedies than romance.

Will I ever forget when I slaved for love? 😉

Aside those who try to convince themselves that they are fine all by themselves, I think it is a common desire to be one part of a closely-knitted pair. Still, there’s no life in losing oneself, dying daily, just to fit in. Don’t get me wrong: fight for love; don’t throw in the towel over the slightest of wrongs or flaws. But it is wisdom to know when it’s time to quit. In my case, it was the realisation that with this person, there would be no end to me explaining myself and/or my actions.

For those who were alone on Valentine’s day, finding love—for a myriad of reasons, each peculiar—may take a while. But, don’t forget, it’s not impossible.

Almost every human being living in the world today have a skeleton in their closet which nobody knows of. We tend to keep them hidden from our friends, family and loved ones. But in some cases, our wish is for us to pour everything out just to be free as keeping some secret seem like a huge burden and somehow hinders us from going forward.

In a relationship, the type of information we tell with our partner may likely turn out to be disastrous because it may determine the nature of existence and longevity. It doesn’t really matter if you’re married or still courting, the reality is, there are some certain information about us that ought to be left untold. You ought not to ever reveal them to your partner regardless of how close you’re and what bonds you share together, they’re the kind of secret you take to your grave because once it is revealed, what ensues afterwards becomes unpredictable.

The truth is that not every partner is matured enough or ready enough to handle such secrets when revealed, so it’s advised you conceal such information to yourself as your partner’s attitude towards you may likely change or they may angrily break things off which wasn’t your initial intention once you decided to share.

Below, are the five most vital secrets you ought to never share with your partner no matter what.

1. Keep your past relationship away from your current partner.

A lot of women in their past relationships got rid of so many unwanted pregnancy because they weren’t ready to take care of any child at that point. Telling your current partner about the number of children you have terminated in the past isn’t something every man would accept easily, they may likely change the way they treat you or even end the relationship.

2. Never tell outsiders how good or weak your partner is in bed.

This is one among the main reasons we’ve seen many unhappy homes today. A secret like this should remain between you and your partner. As a wife, if you out there and keep bragging to your friends about how good your husband is in bed, it will definitely backfire one day, because your friends may begin to flirt with your husband behind her back so they can test too.

3. Don’t reveal to anyone how weak your partner is or how many times you quarrel in your relationship

Some people have this habit of bringing their marital life to the public without considering the negative effect and therefore, the harm it may later bring back to the family. regardless of how bad or worse your relationship/marriages may look, always keep it away from the general public. Present it to others as perfect while you settle issues from inside.

4. Don’t ever tell your mother-in-Law how bad she is.

This is one of the secrets that if you ever make it public, you will not just like the outcome of it, especially if the mother-in-laws in question is a jealous woman. Unless you have decided to live a life without peace and fights on a day to day basis in your own husband’s house, then please take this secret with you to your grave.

5. Keep your pastors faraway from your family disputes.

Even your pastor isn’t worthy to have knowledge of how many times you quarrel together with your husband/wife, because most of them will use your family issues as sermon while preaching in church. Take your problems to God alone.

Heed to these simple commandments and live in a peaceful relationship/marriage.