1. Pacifying gestures: while talking to a woman and she is showing some gestures like playing with her hair, jewelries or touching her neck often, this can mean she is stressed or nervous. Some people think it is because she is attracted to them but this assertion is wrong, most women do this because she is distressed, nervous or not comfortable talking with you and you may need to end the conversation to make her feel at ease again.

2. Smiling: a woman smile can be difficult to understand, when a woman is smiling or she keeps a smiling face doesn’t mean she is friendly or happy with what you are saying, a woman smile when she is nervous. Most women smile in an inappropriate time which makes it difficult to understand them. You may need to pay attention to other body languages before you can understand a woman’s smile.

3. Nodding: women nods often, when a woman nods, it doesn’t actually mean she agrees with you, her nod may be to encourage you to speak on, or showing that she’s listening to you. Most men misunderstand a woman’s nod, it doesn’t necessarily mean she agrees with you.

4. Leaning forward: most women lean forward when they are involved in an intense conversation, they carry their back away from the chair and lean forward when they are really interested in the conversation or they are really into the conversation.

5. Hand gestures: it is common for women to talk with their hands, this happen when they get emotionally invested in a conversation. When a woman express a lot with her hand, it can simply mean she is emotional about the topic of discussion especially when she raise her hands above her shoulder, she is not in control of the situation but if she’s above the situation, she will raise her hand moderately.

6. Handshake: how a woman shakes your hand tells a lot about her, a weak hand shake shows the woman is submissive, shy, intimidated or nervous. While a strong handshake by a woman means she is confident and in position of control or authority.

7. Eye rolling: most women roll their eyes often, this can be a sign of impatience or frustration. When you are talking to a woman and she keeps rolling her eyes without necessarily saying a word, she is stylishly telling you to end the conversation.

8. Arms Crossing: while talking to a woman and she is folding her arms, or she folded her arms in the midst of the conversation or argument it means, she is feeling defensive or its a situation where she feels threatened, crossing her arms may also means disagreement, not feeling remorseful, bored or tired of the conversation.

9. Tapping with her fingers: when you are talking with a woman and she is tapping the table or any object close to her or she is drumming with her fingers, she may be simply telling you that she is tired of the situation, bored, impatience, or frustrated by the conversation. Also, if the conversation is one sided and she doesn’t want you to continue speaking she can show that attitude.

10. Hand on waist: when a woman is placing her Hans on her waist during a conversation or an argument, she is feeling aggressive, angry or in control of the situation. It may also mean, she is not remorseful and not ready to apologize.

11. eye blinking: so many people believe when you are talking to a woman and she keeps blinking her eye, it means she is attracted to them, this is actually wrong, when a woman keeps blinking her eye during a conversation it means she is nervous, uncomfortable, anxious or threatened.

12. Lip gestures: women are used to biting their lower lips when they are stressed, worried or anxious. Most men thinks she is attracted to them or desires them. If a woman is attracted to you, she will bite her lips but accompany it with some intense eye contact. Otherwise, she is nervous or stressed.

Women are so difficult to understand but it takes the ones who understand them to enjoy their company, when you understand the woman body gestures, you will be able to relate with them better

Do you know that there are some girls that keep attracting the wrong type of guys over and over again? They don’t consciously know when they do it; they only realize it when they get a broken heart. She finds herself with mascara-stained tears running down her face after trusting yet another asshole with her heart.

So if you constantly find yourself claiming that your single status is due to the lack of good men around, it is time to reevaluate why you constantly find yourself dating the wrong person.

Of course it is easier to lay blame on the opposite sex for their inability to commit, but it is often your own behavior that results in you dating one bad boy after another.

The tragedy is if you don’t learn what truly attracts a man, you’ll probably have to settle for a lower quality guy, and end up a divorce statistic, even if you are able to get him to marriage.

Aristotle said, “Quality is not an act, it is a habit.” How you treat yourself is your announcement to the world of how much you are worth. How are you teaching the world to treat you?

So for you to attract the right man into your life, do the following:

Live your life fully guided by your heart and good values

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A man finds a woman irresistible if she lives her life on her own terms and brings happiness to herself with or without a man in her life. She doesn’t depend on her love life to live her own life or to be happy.

Where many ladies make the mistake is when they create a life solely around their desire to keep a man; they end up being controlling and that runs a good man off. No man wants a controlling woman in his life. An irresistible woman lives a life that he wants to be a part of. One of the most important aspects to attracting a high-quality man and keeping him is creating a life you love living, make it interesting and of value and you will definitely find a man willing to share that world with you.

Live an open life

Something most women do not understand is that men absolutely crave to be with a woman who is open to them. It brings peace to their soul if they know that you are not the secretive type. If you are not an open person, what this signals to men is that you’re not interested in them or that you have someone else or hiding some dark secret.

Dress the way you want to be addressed

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I’m sure you are already familiar with this saying above but I will still insist on it if you want to attract a good man into your life. Don’t just dress to follow the trend, ask yourself if the kind of man you wish to spend your life with will want to see you dressed that way. So make sure you get dressed in something you feel good in. Find an outfit that you love to wear. This is not about looking hot; it’s about feeling great in it.

Invest in yourself

It is obvious that the woman that keeps attracting the wrong men into her life is because she never invested in growing herself as a woman. She only lives for another date with a man rather than improving her self worth.

A man of quality and intrigue can sense a woman who is faking it or not advancing. He will never trade his loaf of bread for her crumbs. He wants a partner who is on his level, and you must invest in yourself as he has done himself too. You must treat yourself as someone worthy of your desires, dreams and hopes. Only then will you attract a man who wants to nurture them.

Refine your flirting style

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The best flirting skills to use on men is physical ones. This doesn’t mean you should be so open about it. When you see a man like, don’t always play hard to get. That does not also mean you should blatantly throw yourself at him almost immediately. Start by making eye contact and smile; studies show that smiling is the single most effective thing a woman can do to look more attractive to men. Don’t be afraid of giving him your telephone number; this is a harmless gesture, not a marriage proposal. That way, you open up the more to learn more about him, spot red flags or generally fall in love if he meets up with your values and criteria.

When you make yourself the kind of woman a good man wants, you will naturally attract him to you in no time.

Here are 7 top reasons why a lot of beautiful ladies are still single:

You don’t want to just ‘settle’ for any man

You are not looking for someone perfect on paper; you are looking for someone who will be perfect for you. But you don’t want to get married just because all your friends are married or just because society tells you it’s time to settle down in marriage. You are the type that says, until you finally meet the right guy, you don’t have a problem with being single.

Shout out to the ladies that understand that if he isn’t the right guy for you, then forcing a relationship is pointless. Continue to be patient, but make sure that the reason you haven’t accepted any guy is not because of earthly possessions like his job, car, income bracket, and things of that nature. Those things make finding him harder, and personally I think you should focus on finding a man you connect with and can spend time building your lives together.

You’re not approachable

As a girl that wants to get married, you need to learn to smile and be friendly. Guys need some green-light before approaching a lady, so when they glance over and you don’t smile back, they take it as a signal that you don’t want to be approached. Don’t be too rigid, learn to be friendly and approachable and in no time, your Mr. Right will show up.

You are not meeting new guys

Most ladies’ routines are so rigid in their lifestyle and their social circles have stayed the same for years! They go to work, church, home, and maybe one or two places and that’s it. It’s no surprise you haven’t found someone all this while!

You know you can’t keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect a different result. Have a diverse pool of friends and hang out with different groups. You’ll probably meet new people that way and also network. Follow up on business contacts. Tap into all your associations not just because you want a romantic relationship but also because you want richer friendships and a richer life.

You’re not being realistic

I guess sometimes your expectations maybe unrealistic. Nobody is perfect and so are you! A lot of women are looking for ready-made, already established men when they should be looking for men with potential. A lot of women especially after a certain age don’t want to be with ‘potential’ guy but someone with an already made life. The truth is that most men that were not anything in life, after marriage become successful and largely due to the kind of woman they married! So, ladies, don’t be afraid of potential guys anymore.

You have a bad attitude

You may not like to hear this but is very real for some women. You have a stuck up attitude and you still wonder why you struggle with finding the right man. Some ladies will try to cover it up by saying, I’m a ‘diva’ or too ‘classy’ to be with certain men or they are just speaking their mind but in reality you just have a bad attitude.

Being a negative person will not help you find love. Most of the men may still go after you for sex, but if you learn to fix that attitude then you will start to attract the right kind of man in your life.

Some people might say that women like that are married or in relationships. That is because most of them were not completely showing that side in the beginning but being deceptive by hiding it and an unfortunate man will have to live with that horrible baggage in marriage.

You keep engaging yourself with the ‘wrong guy’

How do you expect to ever find the ‘right guy’ when you allow yourself to continuously be with the ‘wrong guy’? You know he is not the one for you yet you continue to entertain this man and his nonsense. He is not even giving you his full attention or commitment, yet you are giving him all the benefits of a real relationship. You want a relationship, but you let this wrong guy continue to take from you without giving you fully what you desire in return. So don’t be surprised when you find yourself still single and more emotionally damaged than you were before.

You are waiting on God to bring your husband

 A lot of women say they are just going to trust God to bring them a man to marry. That is great and a step in the right direction but not doing anything to facilitate the process is foolishness. They wait on God to deliver a man as if they are waiting on a shipment from DHL. You still have to recognize what it is you are or not doing correctly. If you choose to trust God to bring you a man, then find out what God needs you to do to get that man. If you are not the woman you need to be then you may find yourself waiting, and waiting, and waiting. Not because GOD can’t do His part, but because you haven’t truly tapped into doing your part.

Below are 7 things every woman should do in order to gain the attention of her husband ;

1. Show the gorgeous side of you: Maintain basic hygiene, comb your hair, smell nice and wear fitted clothes. 

2. Update your knowledge: Men like women who are well-read. They prefer women who know what is happening in the world. An intellectual wife, who can hold a discussion and have her view point on various topics, will keep her husband engaged in a healthy conversation.

3. Be independent: Do not depend on him, be it financially or otherwise. A strong independent woman is surely attractive.

4. Take interest in his interest: Be it sports, cars, bikes or movies, show interest in what your man likes. He will definitely appreciate the effort you are putting.

5. Express your love: Show your love, every single day. Let him know how much you value him. Tell him how much you love him.

6. Plan a date night: Book a table for two in a fancy restaurant or plan it at home. Make your children sleep early. Spend time together, just the two of you.

7. Show Him Respect: Respect isn’t about letting him make every decision and then going along blindly. Respect is about trusting him as your life partner, and treating him the way you want to be treated. 

1. TO PROLONG THE SILENCE WHEN THEY’RE OFFENDED, TO SHOW THEY’RE ANGRY

This results in you and your husband not talking to each other and makes you both even further apart, which seriously harms your communication. Even if he does something wrong, get angry, but talk about it and say goodbye quickly.

2. KILL YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IN THE NAME OF A GOOD WOMAN.

Don’t isolate yourself. Have grown-up friends who surround you, grow with you as a woman. This makes your life richer, enlarges your worldview, challenges you and makes you less time consuming for your husband. Again, you have to make sure that the ladies you love are of good character. You need comrades to be by your side, iron sharpens the iron.

3. OVERREACT OR EASILY GET ANGRY 

If your husband reveals information to you and overreacts, or if you become very suspicious or critical of him, this discourages him from sharing information with you in the future, and he begins to become secretive, not because he wants to, but because he prefers to avoid the toxic environment you bring with you if you react too quickly. Secrecy opens the door to many dangers in your marriage.

4. THE USE OF S*X AS A WEAPON 

Never try to punish your husband by denying him s*x. It will make him less willing to have s*x with you. Once your s*x life is ruined, your marriage will suffer. Never play games with s*x.

5. MOST TO THE VOICES OUTSIDE THAN YOUR HUSBAND

You and your husband know your marriage best, not your family or friends. If you listen to a few voices accompanying your marriage, you will get confused. The best thing you can do is talk to your husband. Don’t let your husband feel that what others say is worth more to you than what he says.

6. PERSONAL INFORMATION WITH EXTERNAL COMPONENTS 

There are things you can tell your friends and there are things that are best left between you and your husband. Don’t say bad things to your husband in the press. Don’t gossip about him. Cover him up.

7. THE ATTACKER’S SYMPTOMS, NO DOUBT. 

If your husband drinks too much, don’t attack the alcohol or the man; find out what makes him drink and solve the problem. Is he stressed? Is something wrong? If your husband is addicted to pornography, don’t attack your husband; find out why he is addicted to pornography, sexual disappointment or frustration. Does he have problems with low self-esteem?

8. DRESS WHEN GOING OUT, DON’T DRESS WELL AT HOME.

You don’t look good for outsiders and wear good clothes when you go to work or social life, but you look pathetic when you are at home or in the bedroom with your husband. Your goal is to visually stimulate your husband.

9. LETTING GO OF YOUR DREAMS BEFORE YOUR MARRIAGE

Don’t end your career and don’t throw away all your years of training and experience, all your talents and skills because you are a wife. Take a job, keep a job, earn money, go into business, learn, promote your goals. Grow up. There’s more to your life than just marriage. If you stagnate and stop growing, you will be less compatible with your husband, and he will soon have difficulty communicating with you because over the years he has grown more than you have.

10. COMPARING YOUR HUSBAND TO OTHER MEN

Don’t keep telling your husband, “Why can’t you be like this man or this man?” The quickest way to destroy your husband’s self-confidence, ego, dreams and driving is to praise other men and look down on them.

11. LEAVING THE MAN 

If you have a child/children, do not abandon your husband and stop satisfying his needs. Don’t push him aside. Show him you still need him. Do your parenting together, but don’t forget you two need to keep warm. Yes, you can create a balance between wife and mother, just as he can create a balance between husband and father. Don’t belittle him by saying it’s harder to be a mother than it is to be a father. 

12. HIDE IN THE CHURCH AND LEAVE YOUR HOUSE

Ma’am, it’s good to be active for God, get keshas, pray for your family. But remember, the church is not a building. The church is a living body. Your first responsibility is your home. Be at home. You are the answer to your prayers for your marriage and your family. God will bless your marriage, not because of the hours you spend in a church building, but because of the effort you make at home .

13. BE PASSIVE IN THE NAME OF THE ENTRANCE 

Being a submissive woman does not mean that you are beautiful and that you have no initiative, it does not mean that you have no voice or that you expect your husband in everything. Be patient. Have a vision for your marriage and share it with him. Ask your husband questions. Identify and respond to needs at home. Lead with your husband, don’t go alone. Take your husband to appointments. Get ideas and discuss them with your husband. Make sexual advances to your husband

14. BOTTLENECKS IN NUMBERS 

Stop keeping things to yourself that pretend you’re happy. Stop holding a grudge inside. Stop wearing a plastic smile. Stop thinking your husband knows what’s bothering you if you don’t say it. Stop calling your husband insensitive but you don’t tell him what’s bothering you. If you keep things inside you, they will grow and one day they will explode in a horrible way. If your husband has wronged you, confront him with love.

15. THREATEN TO DIVORCE HIM TO SCARE YOUR HUSBAND.

Don’t just use the word “divorce.” Don’t use threats. Don’t tolerate thoughts of ending your marriage to avoid the risk of appearing irrational and indecisive. Every marriage has its difficulties, but that doesn’t mean you are playing with the idea of leaving it. If you do, a divorce will in fact be an irreversible reality

How to know if you’ll ever get pregnant

Pregnancy is a very tricky situation, women dream to have children of their own, some women are scared pregnancy will spoil their shape,some women are scared or c- section, some women are scared they won’t even get pregnant, some women strive to get a particularly gender.. There are just soo many things involved, including the stress when it finally happens.

Medically and scientifically, the amount of eggs your mother had are the same amount you’ll have, and the number of eggs decades as you get older and about age fifty and sixty, you’ll scarcely have any eggs remaining, this is when menopause kicks in.

Naturally, if you don’t ovulate you can’t get pregnant.

What is ovulation

Out of all the eggs we give off every month , there is only one egg that gets mature and its only mature eggs that are capable of producing children when fertilized.

Imagine if out of ten to twenty eggs we give everything month, only one can produce a child.

Ovulation is like the secretion of that mature egg after it has waited so long to get fertilized.

Ovulation occurs fourteen days from the first day of your period.

But medically, ovulation does not occur in all women , you can try all several other pregnancy options like IVF.

If you ovulate normally, your fertile window (period when you can have sex to increase your chances of having children) is three to five days before ovulation and three to five days after ovulation or preferably on the ovulation ….day or the day after ovulation

I hope this helped

There are Six Purposes for Marriage?

God designed marriage to fulfill six important and vital functions. When we understand them, we will be better able to honor marriage.

1. Companionship

True companionship grows out of a oneness of spirit. This occurs in marriage when both the husband and wife can say, “My spouse is my best friend.” “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3).

2. Enjoyment

The principle behind enjoyment is self-control. “Marriage is honorable [precious] in all, and the bed [should be kept] undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Hebrews 13:4).

3. Completeness

God designed Eve to complete that which was lacking in Adam’s life. “And Adam said, … She shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man” (Genesis 2:23).

4. Fruitfulness

God’s first command in Scripture is this: “… Be fruitful [bear fruit], and multiply [increase], and replenish [fill] the earth …” (Genesis 1:28).

The very nature and character of God is to multiply life, whereas the nature and character of Satan is to multiply death.

5. Protection

A husband is to protect his wife by laying down his life for her. (See Ephesians 5:25.) A wife is to protect the interests of her home. (See Titus 2:4–5.) Parents are to protect their children to raise up a Godly seed.

6. Typify Christ and the Church

Marriage is to be a human object lesson of the divine relationship between Christ and believers. (See Ephesians 5:31–33.)

marriage is a formal union and social and legal contract between two individuals that unites their lives legally, economically, and emotionally. … Being married also gives legitimacy to sexual relations within the marriage.

Marriage is meant to be respected not to be abused.

Below are the things that kills marriages of today.

·     Laziness kills marriage 

·     Suspicion kills marriage 

·     Lack of trust kills marriage 

·     Lack of mutual respect kills marriage 

·     Unforgiveness kills marriage (Forgiveness is not optional but mandatory)

·     Arguments kills marriage 

·     Keeping secrets from your spouse kills marriage 

·     Every form of infidelity kills marriage (financial, emotional, psychological, material, etc)

·     Poor communication kills marriage 

. Lies easily kills marriage, be sincere to your spouse in every aspect.

·     Relating more with your parents than your spouse kills marriage 

·     Lack of, inadequate or unenjoyable sex kills marriage. 

·     Nagging kills marriage 

·     Too much talk and careless talk kills marriage 

·     Spending less or little time with your spouse kills marriage 

·     Being too independent minded kills marriage

·     Love for party, money and spending/partying kills marriage 

·     Exposing the inadequacies of your spouse to your parents or siblings kills marriage

·     Not being steadfast/fervent in the spirit kills not only marriage but your life

·     Spurning correction and reprimand kills marriage. 

·     Always wearing a sad face and being moody kills marriage.  

·     FEMINISM ADVOCACY kills marriage. 

·     Uncontrolled or hot temperament kills marriage. 

·     Not understanding your role and position in marriage as instituted by God kills marriage. 

·     Not being sensitive to the spiritual, emotional and physical needs of your spouse kills marriage

·     When anything threatens the position/security of a wife, her reaction(s) will be detrimental to her marriage.

·     Lack of the knowledge of the word of God kills marriage.

.Please, save a marriage today by sharing this.

May God bring healing to every troubled home and family. Ameen.

1 – Relationships – Dating is a fun and often laid-back experience. There’s something exciting about getting to know somebody, with no pressure to ever see them again if you don’t desire. Once you step into the relationship game, everything changes. It’s far more demanding emotionally, financially & time-wise. No need to rush it. Take it slow and make sure you two are a correct fit before committing long-term.

2 – Big decisions – A lot of people like to live by the ‘hell yes or no’ aphorism. While there’s certainly value to saying no when something doesn’t excite you, sometimes we need to take more time when the consequences of a decision are immense. By giving it time, we can let our emotions fade and ultimately select the option that is most logical.

3 – Writing – As I sit here composing this answer, there’s a sense of urgency. As if I need to complete this write-up quickly. That’s merely not true. I could take an hour, being very precise with my words and that would be perfectly okay. Sometimes a deadline can create pressure which motivates us to rush and ultimately produce a product that is less than par. I prefer to be diligent and take my time with this craft.

4 – Sex – Unless you’ve got a meeting in 30 minutes and need to bust a…move, enjoy it. No need to rush one of the most enjoyable experiences us humans have.

5 – Eating – When we eat slower, we are more likely to realize we are full before finishing everything before our eyes. This can help individuals who are hoping to lose weight. It’s also beneficial to take the time to taste the food you are consuming. Think about where it came from & how it was prepared. Mindful eating can help us eat healthier—both in terms of food quality and portion size.

6 – Investing – About a year ago my buddy was telling me all about Bitcoin. Now, I had heard plenty about Bitcoin but wasn’t keeping up with the cryptocurrency market like he was. He told me about the app called Coinbase and naturally, I downloaded it. It was so simple to link up my bank account. Next thing you know, I was invested. A proud owner of .000001 Bitcoin. Okay, maybe a little more than that…but trust me, it’s been a bad deal. I should’ve taken my time and talked to more people before throwing down.

7 – Gifts – I’ve spent a great deal of time lately looking for Christmas gifts. In general, my family’s philosophy is ‘less is more’ when it comes to the holidays. We’ve always exchanged, but sort of in a minimalistic way. For some reason, I’ve felt compelled to spend more money than I should this year. Perhaps it’s because of all the support my parents have given me throughout the years. Maybe I’m just really feeling the love in 2018. Whatever it may be, it’s caused me to be very invested in the gift-giving process. And in taking my time finding the right gift(s) for each person, I’ve come across some incredible deals and items. Don’t buy the first option that pops up. Give it time. 

Once upon a time a beautiful girl got tired of her marriage life and wanted to murder her spouse.

One morning she ran to her mother and say to her ” mother, I am tired of my husband I can no longer support his nonsense. I want to kill him but I am afraid Law of the land will hold me responsible, can you please help me mother?”

The mother answered:

• Yes my daughter I can help you, but, there is a little task attached.

The daughter asked “what task? I am willing and ready to assume any task attached in order to get him out”

OK, said the mother,

1..You will have to make peace with him, so that no one will suspect you when he is dead.

2.. You will have to beautify yourself in order to look young and attractive to him

3.. You have to take good care of him and be very nice and appreciative to him

4.. You have to be patient, loving and less jealous, have more listening ears, be more respectful and obedient

5. Spend your money for him and don’t get angry even when he refuse to give you money for whatever
6. Don’t raise your voice against but encourage Peace and love so that you will never be suspected when he must have died.

Can you do all of that?
Asked the mother.
Yes i can. She replied
OK, said the mother.

Take this powder and pour a bit in his every day meal, it will slowly kill him.

After 30 days the lady came back to her mother and said.

Mother, I have no intention of killing my husband again. As of now I have grown to love him because he has completely changed, he is now a very sweet husband than I ever imagined.

What can i do to stop the poison from killing him?

Please help me mother.

She pleaded in a sorrowful tone.

The mother answered;
Do not worry my daughter. What I gave you the other day was just Tumeric Powder. It will never kill him.

In reality, you were the poison that was slowly killing your husband with tension and dispassion.

It was when you started loving, honouring and cherishing him that you saw him change to a nice and sweet husband.

Men are not really wicked, but our way of relating with them determines their responses and feelings towards us.

Women if you can only show respect, dedication, love, care and commitment to your husband he will 100% be there for you.