If you are currently dealing with having to raise a negative child, there are many things you can do to help them get rid of their unpleasant characteristics. Developing certain coping strategies for your child can help you to make your kid look at the bright side of life.

Many if not all aspire to be parents someday but being a parent is one thing, being able to raise your child right is another. The job of raising a child is a delicate yet very important one because if you don’t get it right, you end up raising a negative adult that becomes a burden to society.

Keep reading for some tips that you may find useful when dealing with children with a negative attitude:

1. Identify The Root Cause

Children sometimes act negative when they have something affecting them and it is your job as a parent to find out if there is an underlying reason as to why your child is behaving in a certain manner. Understanding the root cause of your chid’s bad behaviour helps understand the situation better and how to handle it.

2. Meet Negativity With Positivity

What better way to combat negativity than to handle it with positivity. More often than not, children show negative behaviour as a way of getting attention especially when they are in a bad mood. If your child is being negative about everything, stay calm and polite as against snapping or yelling at him. If your child realises that he is not getting a rise out of you, he will soon get tired of it and may become positive.

3. Ignore

Instead of getting upset for every time your child displays bad behaviour, learn to ignore and let go. Trying to forcefully change a negative child can backfire as the child may become even more negative as a way of resistance. You can choose to ignore the negative instead.

4. Teach them to Manage their Emotions

Children who do not know how to handle rejection or negative situations that arise will learn to react very badly to it. You can teach them how to handle their emotions by encouraging them to partake in their favourite hobby as a way of calming down.

5. Promote Optimistic Thinking

Help your child have an optimistic approach towards life versus a pessimistic one. When your child is an optimist, he finds it easier to find the positive in unfortunate circumstances. With an optimistic mindset, it becomes hard to stay negative or dwell on the bad.

6. Be Consistent

Freeing your child from negative thinking can be quite a challenge, but remaining consistent is the key. Children are less likely to act out if they have a consistent routine as knowing what to expect will give them a certain amount of security and make them less prone to acting out due to insecurity.

Physical signs:

•Pain or itching in the genital area

•Bruises or bleeding in external genitalia

•Venereal disease

•Nightmares or other sleep disturbances

•Frequent stomach illness with no identifiable reason

•Loss of appetite, or trouble eating or swallowing

•Frequent genital or urinary tract infections or irritations

•Torn, stained or bloody underclothing

Behavioral signs:

•An increase in physical complaints

•Problems with bedtime or fear of going to sleep

•Fear of certain people or places (example: not wanting to be left alone with a babysitter

•Regression to infantile behaviors such as thumb-sucking or bed-wetting

•Abnormal interest in sex or knowledge of sexual matters inappropriate for the child’s age

•Preoccupation with their body or masturbation

•Bedwetting — especially if it begins in a child who has been dry

•Sexual activities with toys or other children, such as simulating sex with dolls or asking other children/siblings to behave sexually

•Using new words for private body parts

•Refusing to talk about a ‘secret’ he/she has with an adult or older child

Emotional signs:

•Unexplained fear or dislike of certain people or places depression or withdrawal

•Lack of confidence

•Sudden mood swings: rage, fear, anger, or withdrawal

A child’s disclosure of sexual abuse may be intentional or non-intentional, complete or incomplete, verbal or non-verbal. The child may draw a picture or use toys to re-enact the situation. Importantly, how you respond to the child can impact on their recovery from such trauma.

If a child discloses to you that they are being sexually abused, give the child your undivided attention. Believing the child is critical to the child’s psychological well-being. Allow the child to use their own words and to take their time. Assure the child that they have done the right thing by telling you.

Avoid quizzing the child as this may add unnecessary pressure, and could interfere with legal proceedings (which may be considered as directing the child’s disclosure). The important thing at this stage is to be a supportive listener and ensure the child is safe.

You can report the incident to police or child protection. These individuals are specifically trained professionals in questioning children. Even without a disclosure, you can report your concerns.

As the techniques change, however, not much have changed about the reasons why men cheat on their wives. Men still cheat for all the obvious reasons, five of which are listed below here:

1. Boredom

Marrying someone for the wrong reasons get people into situations and keeps them stuck longer than they should be there. And sadly, breaking out isn’t always as easy as the word sounds, especially with the possible presence of kids.

2. They just don’t care

Some men are just… for the lack of a better word, scum.

The ones who fall into this category are those who have women who would give their all for them, they have model wives, fantastic mums to their kids and women who are considerate of all their needs, yet they go on to cheat on them just because they can.

3. Incompatibility in sex drive with their partners

This is not an excuse to cheat on one’s partner, really. And simply reinforces the opinion that when partners are dating before marrying, whether celibate or not, they should talk about sex and discuss their sexual compatibility.

4. More women are open to sleeping with married men

It is 2019 and it would appear that more young women are open to sleeping with married men, young or old, for reasons best known to them.

5. Dip in sexual desires

For older married men who cheat on their wives with younger women, it could be because of a dip in sexual drive in their women, due to age.

1. Use grater to wash your beans for moi moi after soaking for about 3 minutes.

2. To preserve your beans from weavils and likes, remove dirt’s from beans and store in a gerry can with cover or put the beans in a nylon and get a bucket with cover.The beans will last and remain cool till the seed finishes.

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4. You can store your moi-moi leaves in freezer for months by putting in a big nylon.You only bring out the quantity you need per time.

5. Don’t cover your ogbonor or okro soup when cooking it because it will make it not to draw well again and after cooking it allow it to cool down before covering it.

6. If you don’t want to cry while cutting onion. Before you use the onion peel the back put in the fridge for 10mins bring it out and use it.

7. Preserve your dry fish and crayfish inside freezer with a tight closed container.

8. Add salt to your coco yam when it starts boiling to soften quickly.

9. Soak your garlic in cold water for like a minute, and use your hand to remove the back,it will come off easily.

10. To cut pepper with your hand apply vegetable oil on yourur hand and cut the pepper you will not feel the effect.

11. If you’re boiling your rice and it’s too soft due to too much water just put a slice of bread on it and it will absorb the water and normalize the rice.

12. Tie the head of your plantain to avoid air then keep it in the fridge to avoid it from getting ripe.

13. Wrap your unused fresh vegetables inside a paper could be newspaper then keep in the fridge

14. If hot water or hot oil mistakingly pour on any part of your body just pour flour on it immediately …. And your skin won’t peel or swell up.

15. Soak ur beans for moi moi in hot water for about 10 mins and wash. It comes off easily.

16. To store yourur Ogiri, mix it with salt and put in a container. your ogiri will stay for years without getting spoilt.

17. Prepare white soup. First cook the meat, keep it aside then boil stock fish, dryfish, salt, papper, red oil, caryfish, seasoning cube etc. Put it in the freezer, if none, add little water and warm every morning. Prepared with desired qty of water then take the quantityty as you want whenever you want to prepare any kind of soup even unripe plantain etc. For ede, buy powdered one. Prepare any soup that you can finish a day. Ofe okoro, egusi, ogbono, ede etc. Note, don’t put the meat in the white soup,it would be very very soft before the white soup will finish or you can cook it half done. Then as you warm it everyday, it gets soft .

18. Slice onions near fire to avoid watery eyes or Slice under water

19. Fry your washed bitterleaf when cooking egusi soup to get a sweet bitter taste.

20. For smooth garri, blend or grind it before adding the hot water.

21. Just few garlic in the oil use to fry chin chin or any other thing and the oil get back fresh to be use for stew in case you don’t have another. Add small lemon juice to your over salted soup, stew and it does magic.

22. After making your eba cover it for 5min before mixing ,it make it look smooth

23. Use cold water to melt small of your Semo vita before adding your hot water this will make the semo free from lumps.

24. If bone enters your throat when you are eating, cough and pull your ear at d same time it will come out.

25. If your meat is small in shape, perboil for some seconds without out water this will help to rise the meat then you can add water and seasoning.

26. Fry your curry leaf together with tomatoes.. That stew will be the sweetest.

27. If you want to enjoy ice fish, don’t boil it. Just wash and marinate,when you are ready to fry,slice onions in the oil and fry.

28. To reuse already use oil, grate few ginger and fry for some seconds it will remove the odour or flavour of what you fried initially and taste fresh.

29. To save gas, blend ur tomatoes and drain the water with a sieve before frying it. That way, it takes little time and gas to cook.

30. If you want your beans to cook fast, after d first water drains, add a chopped onions into it and add water.

31. Use egg shell or grounded garlic and salt to get rid of wall geckos

32. Use charcoal to resurrect a soured soup

33. If you want crunchy Irish potato , soak it in water ( not salty water)at least 30 minutes before frying. For yam and sweet potato, soak overnight.

34. Make crayfish the last ingredient youu add to every meal. The taste of the meal will be WOW!

35. When frying tomato for stew…to prevent it from burning add dry pepper…

36. Do you know you can use raw beans to boil hard meat?

37. Always add slice tomatoes to your food it helps to reduce cholesterol!

“My boss drove a luxury car everyday and it was my duty to greet him and to open the gates for him, as I worked as a watchman in his villa. But he never responded back to my greetings.

One day he saw me opening the garbage bags outside the villa in search for any leftover food. But, as usual he never even looked at me, it was like as if he never saw anything!

The very next day I saw a paper bag at the same place, but it was clean and the food inside was covered well. It was fresh and good food like someone had just brought it from the supermarket. I didn’t bother as to where it came from, I just took the paper bag and I was so happy about it.

Every day I found this paper bag at the same place with fresh vegetables and all that we needed for home. This became my daily routine. I was eating and sharing this food with my wife and kids. I was wondering who this fool could be?! To forget his paper bag full of fresh food everyday.

One day there was a big problem in the villa and I was told that my boss has died. There were too many guests coming to the villa that day and I didn’t get any food that day, so I thought that one of the guests must have taken it. But the same thing happened the 2nd day, the 3rd day and the 4th day.

It went on like this for a few weeks and I found it difficult to provide food for my family, so I decided to ask the wife of my boss for a raise in my salary or else I would quit my job as a watchman.

After I told her, she was shocked, and asked me, how come you never complained about your salary for the last 2 years? And why is this salary not enough for you now? I gave her so many excuses but she was never convinced!

Finally in the end, I decided to tell her the truth, I told her the entire story of the bag of groceries, and as to how it was my daily provision. She then asked me as to when this stopped? I told her after the death of her husband. And then I realized that I stopped seeing the paper bag immediately after the death of my boss. Why didn’t I ever think of this before? That it was my boss who was providing this for me? I guess it was because I never thought that a person who never replied to my greetings could ever be this generous!

His wife started to cry and I told her to please stop crying and that I’m really sorry that I asked for a raise, I didn’t know that it was your husband who was providing me with the meals, I’ll remain as a watchman and be happy to provide my service.

His wife told me, I’m crying because I’ve finally found the 7th person my husband was giving this bag full of food. I knew my husband was giving 7 people everyday, I had already found the 6 people, and all these days I was searching for the 7th person. And today I found out.

From that day onwards, I started to receive the bag full of food again, but this time his son was bringing it to my house and giving it to my hand. But whenever I thanked him, he never replied! Just like his dad!

One day, I told him THANK YOU in a very loud voice! He replied back to me to please not be offended when he doesn’t reply, because he has a hearing problem, just like his dad!”

Oh! We have been wrong so many times judging others without knowing the true story behind their actions. Be kind and courteous in dealing with others, for everyone is fighting a hard battle. Be careful, not everything is about you. Before you assume, there is this thing called ASKING.

Don’t just jump to conclusion, because that is truly not an exercise, it may cause you more harm at the end of the day. Many of our problems are caused by how we process what happens around us. Don’t judge a situation you have never been in. Be humble enough to learn. You do not know it all. Lets change the way we feel about ourselves and others.

There are two sides to a story. 1. Don’t believe everything you hear.

2. Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.
   Compliments of the season. God bless.

They are a few things we ignore due to negligence and careless behavior, this has a huge effect in the future of our children. I’m going to list 13 matters you need to teach a woman toddler to secure her destiny

1. Warn your lady child by no means to sit on anybody’s lap regardless of the state of affairs and who the person might be consisting of uncles.

2. Avoid wearing cloth the front of your child as soon as he/she is two years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.

3. Never permit any adult call your toddler as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’. It is part of the ‘grooming process’of pedophiles.

4. Whenever your baby is going out to play with pals make certain you search for a way to discover what type of play they do, due to the fact young human beings now sexually abuse themselves.

5. Never force your child to go to any adult he or she is not comfortable with and additionally be observant if your baby turns into too fond of a selected person.

6; Carefully teach your grown ups about the proper values of sex. If you don’t, the society will educate them the incorrect values.

7. It is constantly really helpful you go through any new fabric like cartoons you simply bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.

8. Ensure you activate parental controls to your cable networks and advice your buddies specially the ones your toddler(ren) visit(s) often.

9. Teach your 3 yr olds a way to wash their non-public parts well and warn them never to permit anyone touch the ones regions and that consists of you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).

10; Blacklist a few materials/associations you watched may want to threaten the sanity of your toddler (this consists of music, films and even buddies and families).

11. Let your baby(ren) apprehend the value of status out of the crowd.

12. Once your toddler complains approximately a specific person, don’t maintain quiet approximately it. Take up the case and display them you may guard them.

Having too many kids (that you can’t afford to take care of)is to your own disadvantage and I’ll tell you why..

Even in your old age, you might still not have a single one of them willing to take care of you like you dreamed..
Inability to give your kids quality life is the reason you hear people make arguments about not owing their parents..

You might be in abject poverty, hawk or do many menial jobs to get food to kids that you forgot were also hustling at a tender age to make up whatever you brought in and then when they’re grown and a bit successful than you were, they remember they most times did the bulk of fending for themselves while all you offered was sit in abject poverty and continuously bred like rabbit while wailing as to why you were doing your best to take care of them😏

There are things you don’t handle with emotions, human beings are one of such, that you’re emotional and tend to help or ‘pay back’ does not mean the next person will, this is a hard lesson for Nigerians especially, they don’t understand why a woman will sell akara or pap to send her kids to school and the child grows to say they did nothing for him/her..
It’s simple, you didn’t sell alone, most often than not, they sold with you! You see?? Such child won’t be wrong to say they don’t owe you shit..

Do we talk the civil servants who didn’t sell nor sent their children to sell but because the kids were too many, most times they were hungry but had to endure because daddy and mummy had to share food meant for 2kids amongst 4, 5, 6 or sometimes 10 siblings?🤷🏾‍♀️
The kids will remember the hunger, and you want them to be indebted to you for raising them in hunger?

Most of the kids, had to wait a year or two so their parents can afford Jamb form, some got into school but had to sort their bills out themselves🤦🏽‍♀️ the list is inexhaustible abi na the ones wey study wetin dem no get interest in because their parents couldn’t afford their choice course? When such kid says he/she doesn’t owe you are they not right?

Most people that argue with ‘after all their parents did for them’ really regret even the environment or accommodation they grew up in if they’d be truthful to themselves, most times these parents did nothing, absolutely nothing!
You sat in a shop selling satchet water and biscuits but your kids are the ones who got to walk the whole town to hawk, who should be indebted to who?

Like I said, everyone won’t react emotionally like you and you can’t force your beliefs on someone..
It’s always kids from poor homes that have problems arguing who should be indebted to who, you don’t see the rich with such problems..
When you give someone quality life, you don’t need to beg for indebtedness, it comes naturally, imagine, someone on Facebook dashed you 5k and you want to use appreciation post to kill us ontop 5k now you have parents that gave you the best in education, health, quality living et al and you will come to Facebook to argue who should be indebted or not😏 you won’t even have such people on your list..

The cycle won’t break anytime soon because in this generation people are still giving birth like rabbits.. is it not here on Facebook that they come to guilt trip people with ‘help me, nobody knows tomorrow’? Tomorrow will be better for people who are proactive, who did the right thing, took the right measures and not for you that stuffed your brain with fufu and kept breeding like an animal..

You see the rich have just one kid or maybe two and you shamelessly go to beg them for help with 5kids and you think you have sense? And then when they tell you they have their own problems you start the cliche of nobody knows tomorrow😏😏 tomorrow their kids will still rule your own kids who will still go to meet them for help and the vicious cycle continues.

The first rule to breaking poverty is limiting the number of persons dependent on you!
Those who think they owe their parents nothing may be right don’t drag their reality with them, just ensure you don’t get caught in that web through your own stupidity..

Do the right thing today and save yourself the embarrassment of suffering through to the grave.

Some children suffer from stunted growth because of their body system lack the nutrients that will boost their growth hormones. This article will show you the foods that would aid your child’s growth.

1. Eggs

Studies have shown that malnourished children who were fed with a high-protein diet over a period developed more height compared to those who were fed with standard protein. Eggs are incredible sources of protein, riboflavin, biotin, and iron. Protein helps in cell growth and development. Egg white is a concentrated source of protein. Make sure to include eggs almost every day in your child’s meal.

2. Green leafy vegetables

Green leafy vegetables not only give your kids strength but also supply a good amount of calcium. The calcium in leafy vegetables balances bone resorption (breaking down of tissue in the bone to release minerals) and building of tissue in the bone by deposition of minerals, which varies according to age . Vegetables like cabbage, broccoli, kale, and spinach would supply the nutrients needed for growth.

3. Fruits

Fruits are not often associated with minerals, but some fruits contain an adequate amount of calcium and other minerals required for the healthy growth of the bones. Make it a habit to give your child 1-2 servings of fruit daily. You can also add them to cereals to make them colorful and tasty. Examples of fruits with calcium content are oranges, apricots, kiwi, and pineapple.

4. Dairy and dairy products

Milk (dairy) contains calcium and protein, which aid the growth of bones and also develop strength. Whole milk has more nutrients than the skimmed versions. Dairy products like cheese, yogurt, curd, and cottage cheese are abundant in calcium and vitamins, which are important for bone mineralization in children. Get your kids to drink milk every day or make dishes that are filled with the goodness of milk.

5. Beans

Beans are excellent sources of protein but have a limiting amount of amino acids. Most beans contain a good amount of calcium, which is essential for a growing child.

6. Whole grains

Whole grains are rich in vitamin B, magnesium, selenium, zinc, and iron and contain a small amount of calcium. All these minerals are essential for bone growth and mineralization. You can give your kids whole-grain bread and pasta as well as cereals.

7. Soybean

Soybeans are rich in proteins. While they are likely to be useful in improving optimal bone health, the mechanisms are still not clear. You can create many yummy dishes with soybeans that your kids will relish. A few examples of soybean products are soy flour, soy chunks, tofu, and soy milk.