1. TO PROLONG THE SILENCE WHEN THEY’RE OFFENDED, TO SHOW THEY’RE ANGRY
This results in you and your husband not talking to each other and makes you both even further apart, which seriously harms your communication. Even if he does something wrong, get angry, but talk about it and say goodbye quickly.
2. KILL YOUR SOCIAL LIFE IN THE NAME OF A GOOD WOMAN.
Don’t isolate yourself. Have grown-up friends who surround you, grow with you as a woman. This makes your life richer, enlarges your worldview, challenges you and makes you less time consuming for your husband. Again, you have to make sure that the ladies you love are of good character. You need comrades to be by your side, iron sharpens the iron.
3. OVERREACT OR EASILY GET ANGRY
If your husband reveals information to you and overreacts, or if you become very suspicious or critical of him, this discourages him from sharing information with you in the future, and he begins to become secretive, not because he wants to, but because he prefers to avoid the toxic environment you bring with you if you react too quickly. Secrecy opens the door to many dangers in your marriage.
4. THE USE OF S*X AS A WEAPON
Never try to punish your husband by denying him s*x. It will make him less willing to have s*x with you. Once your s*x life is ruined, your marriage will suffer. Never play games with s*x.
5. MOST TO THE VOICES OUTSIDE THAN YOUR HUSBAND
You and your husband know your marriage best, not your family or friends. If you listen to a few voices accompanying your marriage, you will get confused. The best thing you can do is talk to your husband. Don’t let your husband feel that what others say is worth more to you than what he says.
6. PERSONAL INFORMATION WITH EXTERNAL COMPONENTS
There are things you can tell your friends and there are things that are best left between you and your husband. Don’t say bad things to your husband in the press. Don’t gossip about him. Cover him up.
7. THE ATTACKER’S SYMPTOMS, NO DOUBT.
If your husband drinks too much, don’t attack the alcohol or the man; find out what makes him drink and solve the problem. Is he stressed? Is something wrong? If your husband is addicted to pornography, don’t attack your husband; find out why he is addicted to pornography, sexual disappointment or frustration. Does he have problems with low self-esteem?
8. DRESS WHEN GOING OUT, DON’T DRESS WELL AT HOME.
You don’t look good for outsiders and wear good clothes when you go to work or social life, but you look pathetic when you are at home or in the bedroom with your husband. Your goal is to visually stimulate your husband.
9. LETTING GO OF YOUR DREAMS BEFORE YOUR MARRIAGE
Don’t end your career and don’t throw away all your years of training and experience, all your talents and skills because you are a wife. Take a job, keep a job, earn money, go into business, learn, promote your goals. Grow up. There’s more to your life than just marriage. If you stagnate and stop growing, you will be less compatible with your husband, and he will soon have difficulty communicating with you because over the years he has grown more than you have.
10. COMPARING YOUR HUSBAND TO OTHER MEN
Don’t keep telling your husband, “Why can’t you be like this man or this man?” The quickest way to destroy your husband’s self-confidence, ego, dreams and driving is to praise other men and look down on them.
11. LEAVING THE MAN
If you have a child/children, do not abandon your husband and stop satisfying his needs. Don’t push him aside. Show him you still need him. Do your parenting together, but don’t forget you two need to keep warm. Yes, you can create a balance between wife and mother, just as he can create a balance between husband and father. Don’t belittle him by saying it’s harder to be a mother than it is to be a father.
12. HIDE IN THE CHURCH AND LEAVE YOUR HOUSE
Ma’am, it’s good to be active for God, get keshas, pray for your family. But remember, the church is not a building. The church is a living body. Your first responsibility is your home. Be at home. You are the answer to your prayers for your marriage and your family. God will bless your marriage, not because of the hours you spend in a church building, but because of the effort you make at home .
13. BE PASSIVE IN THE NAME OF THE ENTRANCE
Being a submissive woman does not mean that you are beautiful and that you have no initiative, it does not mean that you have no voice or that you expect your husband in everything. Be patient. Have a vision for your marriage and share it with him. Ask your husband questions. Identify and respond to needs at home. Lead with your husband, don’t go alone. Take your husband to appointments. Get ideas and discuss them with your husband. Make sexual advances to your husband
14. BOTTLENECKS IN NUMBERS
Stop keeping things to yourself that pretend you’re happy. Stop holding a grudge inside. Stop wearing a plastic smile. Stop thinking your husband knows what’s bothering you if you don’t say it. Stop calling your husband insensitive but you don’t tell him what’s bothering you. If you keep things inside you, they will grow and one day they will explode in a horrible way. If your husband has wronged you, confront him with love.
15. THREATEN TO DIVORCE HIM TO SCARE YOUR HUSBAND.
Don’t just use the word “divorce.” Don’t use threats. Don’t tolerate thoughts of ending your marriage to avoid the risk of appearing irrational and indecisive. Every marriage has its difficulties, but that doesn’t mean you are playing with the idea of leaving it. If you do, a divorce will in fact be an irreversible reality
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