Avoid having too many kids

Having too many kids (that you can’t afford to take care of)is to your own disadvantage and I’ll tell you why..

Even in your old age, you might still not have a single one of them willing to take care of you like you dreamed..
Inability to give your kids quality life is the reason you hear people make arguments about not owing their parents..

You might be in abject poverty, hawk or do many menial jobs to get food to kids that you forgot were also hustling at a tender age to make up whatever you brought in and then when they’re grown and a bit successful than you were, they remember they most times did the bulk of fending for themselves while all you offered was sit in abject poverty and continuously bred like rabbit while wailing as to why you were doing your best to take care of them😏

There are things you don’t handle with emotions, human beings are one of such, that you’re emotional and tend to help or ‘pay back’ does not mean the next person will, this is a hard lesson for Nigerians especially, they don’t understand why a woman will sell akara or pap to send her kids to school and the child grows to say they did nothing for him/her..
It’s simple, you didn’t sell alone, most often than not, they sold with you! You see?? Such child won’t be wrong to say they don’t owe you shit..

Do we talk the civil servants who didn’t sell nor sent their children to sell but because the kids were too many, most times they were hungry but had to endure because daddy and mummy had to share food meant for 2kids amongst 4, 5, 6 or sometimes 10 siblings?🤷🏾‍♀️
The kids will remember the hunger, and you want them to be indebted to you for raising them in hunger?

Most of the kids, had to wait a year or two so their parents can afford Jamb form, some got into school but had to sort their bills out themselves🤦🏽‍♀️ the list is inexhaustible abi na the ones wey study wetin dem no get interest in because their parents couldn’t afford their choice course? When such kid says he/she doesn’t owe you are they not right?

Most people that argue with ‘after all their parents did for them’ really regret even the environment or accommodation they grew up in if they’d be truthful to themselves, most times these parents did nothing, absolutely nothing!
You sat in a shop selling satchet water and biscuits but your kids are the ones who got to walk the whole town to hawk, who should be indebted to who?

Like I said, everyone won’t react emotionally like you and you can’t force your beliefs on someone..
It’s always kids from poor homes that have problems arguing who should be indebted to who, you don’t see the rich with such problems..
When you give someone quality life, you don’t need to beg for indebtedness, it comes naturally, imagine, someone on Facebook dashed you 5k and you want to use appreciation post to kill us ontop 5k now you have parents that gave you the best in education, health, quality living et al and you will come to Facebook to argue who should be indebted or not😏 you won’t even have such people on your list..

The cycle won’t break anytime soon because in this generation people are still giving birth like rabbits.. is it not here on Facebook that they come to guilt trip people with ‘help me, nobody knows tomorrow’? Tomorrow will be better for people who are proactive, who did the right thing, took the right measures and not for you that stuffed your brain with fufu and kept breeding like an animal..

You see the rich have just one kid or maybe two and you shamelessly go to beg them for help with 5kids and you think you have sense? And then when they tell you they have their own problems you start the cliche of nobody knows tomorrow😏😏 tomorrow their kids will still rule your own kids who will still go to meet them for help and the vicious cycle continues.

The first rule to breaking poverty is limiting the number of persons dependent on you!
Those who think they owe their parents nothing may be right don’t drag their reality with them, just ensure you don’t get caught in that web through your own stupidity..

Do the right thing today and save yourself the embarrassment of suffering through to the grave.